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Thursday 14 May 2015 • 20:27 0 exotics


Assalamualaikum...
This a last part of update blog for my MGT 538 assignment.. thanks madam for give this assignment, i really enjoy to write and post something that i am imagine to. For the last part of this updated blog i want to share the story about love..


Anybody that love me for who i am and always be by my side...I want to share to share a piece of the lyrics... 

Lee Jung - Sad LoVe

My eyes only search for you
My two hands are still holding onto you
I can't help my own heart
So I'm sad over love

I am standing here right now
If you come closer, you could see me
But this sadness from not being able to have you
Becomes tears and flows down

* I love you, again today, I love you
I am wanting you like this
Can't you just stay?
Whenever I see you, I get greedy so I get scared

I am standing here right now
If you come closer, you could see me
I can't let you go like this
I swallow my tears and let out a sigh

Though I call out your name, it becomes the wind and comes back to me
Though time pases, though you forgot me
I will still wait for you like this

I love you, again today, I love you
I am wanting you like this
Can't you come to me?
The day we will be together...

* i really don't know why i post this lyrics but this is what i hear right now.. it's love that reflect about my self now.. that why i post it.. its look that i'm really desperate about love..  i hope it will be someone who will be with me forever ..



10 Ways to Have Peaceful, Loving Relationships:

1. Do what you need to do for you.

Everyone has personal needs, whether it’s going to the gym after work or taking some alone time on Saturday morning. If someone asks you to do something and your instinct is to honor you own need, do that. I’m not saying you can’t make sacrifices sometimes, but it’s important to make a habit of taking care of yourself
Someone once told me people are like glasses of water. If we don’t do what we have to do to keep our glass full, we’ll need to take it from someone else—which leaves them half full. Fill your own glass so you can feel whole and complete in your relationships.

2. Give people the benefit of the doubt.

It’s tempting to doubt people—to assume your boyfriend meant to hurt you by not inviting you out with his friends, or your friend meant to make you feel inadequate by flaunting her money. People who care about you want you to feel happy, even if sometimes they get too wrapped up in their own problems to show it well.
Sometimes they may be hurtful and mean it—let’s not pretend we’re all angels. But that won’t be the norm. It will likely be when they’re hurting and don’t know what to do with it. Odds are they’ll feel bad and apologize later. If you want to get good will, share it by seeing the best in the people you love. When we assume the best, we often inspire it.

3. Look at yourself for the problem first.

When you feel unhappy with yourself, it’s easy to find something wrong in a relationship. If you blame another person for what you’re feeling, the solution is on them. But this is actually faulty logic. For starters, it gives them all the control. And secondly, it usually doesn’t solve the problem, since you didn’t actually address the root cause.
Next time you feel the need to blame someone for your feelings—something they did or should have done—ask yourself if there’s something else going on. You may find there’s something underlying: something you did or should have done for you. Take responsibility for the problem and you have power to create a solution.

4. Be mindful of projecting.

In psychology, projecting refers to denying your own traits and then ascribing them to the outside world or other people. For example, if you’re not a loyal and trusting friend, you may assume your friends are all out to get you. It’s a defense mechanism that allows you to avoid the discomfort of acknowledging your weaknesses. There’s no faster way to put a rift in your relationships.
This comes back to down to self awareness, and it’s hard work. Acknowledging your flaws isn’t fun, but if you don’t, you’ll continue seeing them in everyone around you. And you’ll continue to hurt. Next time you see something negative in someone else, ask yourself if it’s true for you. It might not be, but if it is, identifying it can help create peace in that relationship.

5. Choose your battles.

Everyone knows someone who makes everything a fight. If you question them about something, you can expect an argument. If you comment on something they did, you’ll probably get yelled at. Even a compliment could create a confrontation. Some people just like to fight—maybe to channel negativity they’re carrying around about the world or themselves.
On the one hand, you have to tell people when there’s something bothering you. That’s the only way to address problems. On the other hand, you don’t have to let everything bother you. When I’m not sure if I need to bring something up, I ask myself these few questions:
  • Does this happen often and leave me feeling bad?
  • Does this really matter in the grand scheme of things?
  • Can I empathize with their feelings instead of dwelling on my insecurity?

6. Confront compassionately and clearly.

When you attack someone, their natural instinct is to get defensive, which gets you nowhere. You end up having a loud conversation where two people do their best to prove they’re right and the other one is wrong. It’s rarely that black and white. It’s more likely you both have points, but you’re both too stubborn to meet in the middle.
If you approach someone with compassion, you will open their hearts and minds. Show them you understand where they’re coming from, and they’ll be willing to see your side. That gives you a chance to express yourself and your expectations clearly. And when you let people know what you need at the right time in the right way, they’re more likely to give that to you.

7. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.

There are all kinds of ways you can feel vulnerable in relationships: When you express your feelings for someone else. When you’re honest about yourself or your past. When you admit you made a mistake. We don’t always do these things because we want to maintain a sense of power.
Power allows us a superficial sense of control, whereas true, vulnerable being allows us a sense of authenticity. That’s love: being your true self and allowing someone else to do the same without letting fear and judgment tear it down. It’s like Jimi Hendrix said, “When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.”

8. Think before acting on emotion.

This one is the hardest for me. As soon as I feel hurt, frustrated, or angry, I want to do something with it—which is always a bad idea. I’ve realized my initial emotional reaction does not always reflect how I really feel about something. Initially, I might feel scared or angry, but once I calm down and think things through, I often realize I overreacted.
When you feel a strong emotion, try to sit it for a while. Don’t use it or run from it—just feel it. When you learn to observe your feelings before acting on them, you minimize the negativity you create in two ways: you process, analyze, and deal with feelings before putting them on someone else; and you communicate in a way that inspires them to stay open instead of shutting down.

9. Maintain boundaries.

When people get close, boundaries can get fuzzy. In a relationship without boundaries, you let the other person manipulate you into doing things you don’t want to do. You act out of guilt instead of honoring your needs. You let someone offend you without telling them how you feel about it. The best way to ensure people treat you how you want to be treated is to teach them.
That means you have to love and respect yourself enough to do that: to acknowledge what you need, and speak up. The only way to truly have loving, peaceful relationships is to start with a loving, peaceful relationship with yourself.

10. Enjoy their company more than their approval.

When you desperately need someone’s approval, your relationship becomes all about what they do for you—how often they stroke your ego, how well they bring you up when you feel down, how well they mitigate your negative feelings. This is draining for another person, and it creates an unbalanced relationship.
If you notice yourself dwelling on pleasing someone else or getting their approval, realize you’re creating that need. (Unless you’re in an abusive relationship, in which case I highly recommend getting help.) Instead of focusing on what you can get from that person, focus on enjoying yourselves together. Oftentimes the best thing you can do for yourself and someone else is let go and give yourself permission to smile.
What do you do to create peaceful, loving relationships?




the Quotes on Motivation to Me.
Monday 4 May 2015 • 03:39 0 exotics
The most important thing is to enjoy your life-To Be Happy- It's all that matters. (Audrey Hepburn




this quotes give me the feel of freedom to live in happy life without having a stress and to enjoy our self.. I think that having a good life is when you have to set in your mind that what we want, what we want to achieve in life, who is your motivator and have to think in positive way when you having a problem.. But when i have a problem or want to run from it difficulty i have no choice but to find a something that can make me happy for exmple listen to music or get a fresh air that is what my life is when having a problem.... 😉😉😉 and what yours?? What qoute that can motive you?? How can you aginst it?? 😊😊😊

11 More Fascinating Facts About Beauty
Wednesday 22 April 2015 • 08:47 1 exotics

All women around the world have their expectation about beauty. Some of them just let it be natural and some are just want to change their physical feature.. like go to the surgery or buy a cosmetic product that contain whitening effect to their face.. I also had thought that i want to change my face ...and go to the plastic surgery.. but we have to grateful for what you have created... but here i want to post about the fact of beauty ... lets read it... i not very sure is it true or not.. but we can judge by the survey.. but mostly it similar to what i think.. but not that 100% true.. for example like attractive man/women have the higher IQs... i don't think so.. but its benefit to them, if their are beautiful and handsome..yeahhh.. that all.. 


The vertical distance between the eyes and mouth, and the horizontal distance between the eyes are key determinants of the "ideal" face.

The perfect female face, according to researchers at the University of Toronto, has a distance between the pupils of 46 percent of the entire face, and a distance between the eyes and the mouth that is 36 percent of the distance from the hairline to the chin.
Source: BBC New

The left side of the face is prettier.

College students who were asked to rate photographs of 10 male and 10 female faces found portraits showing the left sides of faces more aesthetically pleasing than those showing right sides.   

Beautiful people make about 5% more an hour than their average-looking colleagues.

A 2005 study by the Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis found that slim, tall and good-looking people tend to earn higher wages than their plain-Jane co-workers.
This is partly because certain physical characteristics shown to increase confidence and communication skills may also boost productivity at the office. Researchers note that discrimination, or a "plainness penalty," may also be at play.  
Source: CNN Money

Beautiful people are happier.

According to Economists at the University of Texas, beauty's direct relation to happiness is partly linked to economic benefits.
Better-looking people generally earn more money and marry better-looking and higher-earning spouses than their less attractive counterparts.   
Source: USA Today

Being too attractive can hurt job and scholarship opportunities.

Psychologist Maria Agthe found that good-looking applicants for a graduate scholarship received less favourable reviews from raters of the same sex.   

Attractive men and women have higher IQs.

By monitoring the academic intelligence and physical appearance of more than 17,000 people from childhood up to early adulthood, researchers at the London School of Economics found that in Britain, good-looking women have IQs 11.4 points above the average, and attractive men have a higher IQ of 13.6 points.  

Women find men less attractive when they smile; the opposite is true for women.

Researchers from the University of British Colombia found that women viewed men as less attractive when they appeared happy because it made them seem less masculine.  
Source: CBS News

Women are more attracted to men who are desired by others.

An experiment led by British psychologist Benedict Jones of the University of Aberdeen in Scotland found that women are drawn to men who are smiled at by other women.
This suggests that women rely on the attitudes of others to shape their own view about the attractiveness of men. 
Source: Cosmos Magazine

Men prefer women with child-like faces.

When selecting features of an attractive woman, men choose proportions characteristic of young girls, including a shorter distance from the eyes to the chin and fuller lips, according to research by Professor Victor John stone of the University of New Mexico.
Source: The Beauty Blog

We are more likely pick up on the personality traits of attractive people than unattractive people.

Scientists believe that because we pay closer attention to beautiful people — either out of curiosity, romantic interest or the desire for friendship — we also perceive their personalities better.  

People want a partner who looks like their parents.

Psychologist David Perret found that women are attracted to men who look like their father and men fall for women who look like their mother.
This is especially true when we have a good relationship with our parents because they remind us of the faces we constantly saw growing up. 
Source: The Daily Mail




my long journey yesterday and free time
Wednesday 15 April 2015 • 06:56 1 exotics
14/4/15 is not the best day in my live... A lot of problems I have to face.. Sebab tidur lewat malam sebelum Tu .. Esok nak ke kelas.. Lupa nak set jam.. Ponteng 1 kelas.. Huhuhu.. I forgot that I have finance test the next day!!!! Luckily I have my awesome classmates that keep on reminding me with all these things :) so I manage to prepare myself before going to the test.




my free time...... 😉 y..
as a student.. I don't have a free time to be wasted. This is due to lots of assignments tests and others to be handled. My free time is only when I go to sleep.. End of my dayyyy 😁

5 year planning..
Friday 10 April 2015 • 12:58 0 exotics


i was hoping that my journey is easy and not difficult to walk through.... but we can expect what the future we can be.. in year 2017 i got my bachelor degree in marketing.. now is 2015.. two more years to wait.. the past is the past .. now in future i was hoping that i can get a better job in private or government sector.. after getting a job i hope that i can save my money.. and go travel the world.. but first i wanna go to South Korea.. that's my plan in another five years....................

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My strengths are :

1. Emotionally stable at work.

2. Can work in high pace environment.

3. Having traits of smart worker as well as hard worker.

4. Can easily adopt new technology.

5. Having good knowledge of computers and related stuff.

6. I Have enthusiasm about my work.

My weakness are :

1. Not good in communication when it comes to English. I have concurred it mostly still sometimes I got hesitated.

2. Sometimes my enthusiasm do get up my team members. I am currently working on to solve this weakness.

mY lOvE oNe...
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My love come from star.. hahaha.. so that is my father and my mother..  they thought me about the great things in the world... father had recently retired from Air-force army.. and my mother is a housewife.. since my father retirement they both work as a rubber tapper at my grandmother property. They both have a similar personality and funny too.. hehehe.. i love my dad more than my mom.. because he give me more money and give advises about my life and career...


they are  my lovely sibling... i have 4 brothers and one sister.. i love them very much... we had a great time together went everybody assemble..... we share every problem in every situation... but the one that close to me is my sister.. we shared same hobbies..like reading a novel or manga.. and kpop music.. apart from that, we shared the similarities of admiring the people that has a good ideal type. I LOVE MY FAMILY SOO MUCH....